Why eating disorders don't have a "look"
It’s a common misconception: people often assume that eating disorders (EDs) only affect those who appear extremely thin. But the truth is, eating disorders don’t have “a look”. Anyone, at any size, shape, or age, can be affected, and hiding the signs can make it harder to get help.
Eating Disorders Are Mental Health Conditions
Eating disorders are mental health conditions, not appearance-based illnesses. They involve a complex mix of psychological, emotional, social, and biological factors (Healthline).
This means someone can be underweight, average-weight, or above average weight and still struggle with disordered eating or an eating disorder. The myth that you need to “look sick” to have an eating disorder is not only wrong, it’s extremely harmful!
Over 1.1 million people in Australia are affected by an Eating Disorder (Butterfly Foundation, 2025).
Appearance Can Be Misleading
Many people live with Other or Unspecified Eating or Feeding Disorders (OSFED), or other hidden eating disorders that don’t fit the stereotype or even our diagnostic criteria (Hint: it’s outdated). Someone might appear to do what seems “healthy” or be in a higher body weight, but still experience dangerous, restrictive, binging, or purging behaviours (Integrated Care Clinic).
Weight alone is NEVER a reliable indicator. Relying on appearance can delay recognition, diagnosis, and treatment. Eating disorders do not discriminate, whether by body size or shape, age, gender, or skin colour. Unfortunately, our old medical system has been discriminating against recognition.
Common Signs to Notice Beyond Appearance
Instead of focusing on looks, pay attention to behaviours and emotional signs:
Restricting or bingeing on food
Obsessive thoughts about food or body image
Excessive, driven or compulsive exercise beyond normal routines
Avoiding social eating situations
Frequent mood changes or irritability
Always speak to your doctor if you notice signs of the above, regardless of what your body looks like.
Why Stereotypes Make Early Help Harder
The belief that eating disorders have a “look” can prevent people from getting the support they need. Loved ones may say, “But you don’t look sick!”, or “she’s just eating healthily” minimising the struggle and impact. Even healthcare providers can overlook symptoms in someone who doesn’t fit the stereotype (Alliance for Eating Disorders Awareness).
Early intervention is critical. Eating disorders are serious and can be life-threatening, regardless of body size.
Compassion Over Assumptions
If you suspect someone, or yourself, may be struggling with an eating disorder:
Listen and validate, don’t assume based on appearance.
Focus on behaviors and emotions rather than weight or shape.
Encourage professional support. Early help saves lives.
Australian resources for support include:
Takeaway: Everyone Deserves Help
Eating disorders don’t discriminate by size, shape, or appearance. If you or someone you love is struggling, it’s never too early, or too late to seek help. Recognise the signs, ditch the stereotypes, and open the door to compassionate support. We are here to listen with curiosity and compassion and help you decide what is right for you. Reach out to us if you would like to have a chat to us now.
Note: The information provided in this blog is for educational purposes only and is NOT intended as medical /psychological advice. Please consult a healthcare professional for personalised guidance.
