How can I support my loved one with an Eating Disorder?

2 Sept

Watching someone you care about struggle with an eating disorder can feel scary, confusing, and frustrating. You might be asking yourself: What can I do to help? The good news is, there are ways to provide meaningful support, without trying to “fix” them.

First, listen and validate. Sometimes the best support is simply being present. Let your loved one know you hear them, believe them, and care about their experience without judgment. Avoid giving advice unless they ask, it’s more important to feel seen than “fixed.”

Learn about eating disorders. Understanding that eating disorders are complex mental health conditions, not a choice, not about willpower, helps you respond with compassion rather than frustration.

Avoid focusing on weight or appearance. Comments about food, weight, or body size, even well-intentioned, can make recovery harder. Instead, focus on emotions, strengths, and effort.

Encourage professional support. Recovery is safest with guidance. You can gently suggest seeing a Credentialed Eating disorder clinician such as a Psychologist, dietitian, or medical professional, but avoid pressuring them. Support means encouragement, not control.

Take care of yourself too. Supporting someone with an eating disorder can be emotionally heavy. Make sure you have your own support system, set boundaries, and seek help if you need it. If you are in Australia you can access free support through Eating Disorders Families Australia (EDFA).

Remember: your role isn’t to “fix” your loved one. it’s to be a compassionate, steady presence while they access the support they need. Small acts of understanding and patience can make a huge difference in their recovery journey.

Recovery is possible, and your support, done the right way, can help them feel less alone.

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